Memoirs of a Child @ Heart

Ten Commandments for Peace of Mind

as i was browsing through the mails in my inbox, i came across this forwarded message from a friend. i totally forgot that he sent me this one.  i think most of us can relate to this so i thought of sharing it with you... enjoy reading!!

1. Do Not Interfere In Others' Business Unless Asked.

Most of us create our own problems by interfering too often in others'
affairs. We do so because somehow we have convinced ourselves that our way
is the best way, our logic is the perfect logic and those who do not conform
to our thinking must be criticized and steered to the right direction, our
direction. This thinking denies the existence of individuality and
consequently the existence of God. God has created each one of us in a
unique way. No two human beings can think or act in exactly the same way.
All men or women act the way they do because God within them prompts them
that way. There is God to look after everything. Why are you bothered? Mind
your own business and you will keep Your peace.

2. Forgive And Forget.

This is the most powerful aid to peace of mind. We often develop ill
feelings inside our heart for the person who insults us or harms us. We
nurture grievances. This in turn results in loss of sleep, development of
stomach ulcers, and high blood pressure. This insult or injury was done
once, but nourishing of grievance goes on forever by constantly remembering
it. Get over this bad habit. Believe in the justice of God and the doctrine
of Karma. Let Him judge the act of the one who insulted you. Life is too
short to waste in such trifles. Forgive, Forget, and march on. Love
flourishes in giving and forgiving.

3. Do Not Crave For Recognition.

This world is full of selfish people. They seldom praise anybody without
selfish motives. They may praise you today because you are in power, but no
sooner than you are powerless, they will forget your achievement and will
start finding faults in you. Why do you wish to kill yourself in striving
for their recognition? Their recognition is not worth the aggravation. Do
your duties ethically and sincerely and leave the rest to God.

4. Do Not Be Jealous.

We all have experienced how jealousy can disturb our peace of mind. You know
that you work harder than your colleagues in the office, but sometimes they
get promotions; you do not. You started a business several years ago, but
you are not as successful as your neighbor whose business is only one year
old. There are several examples like these in everyday life. Should you be
jealous? No. Remember everybody's life is shaped by his or her previous
Karma, which has now become his destiny. If you are destined to be rich,
nothing in the world can stop you. If you are not so destined, no one can
help you either. Nothing will be gained by blaming others for your
misfortune. Jealousy will not get you anywhere; it will only take away your
peace of mind.

5. Change Yourself According To The Environment.

If you try to change the environment single-handedly, the chances are you
will fail. Instead, change yourself to suit your environment. As you do
this, even the environment, which has been unfriendly to you, will
mysteriously change and seem congenial and harmonious.

6. Endure What Cannot Be Cured.

This is the best way to turn a disadvantage into an advantage Every day we
face numerous inconveniences, ailments, irritations, and accidents that are
beyond our control. If we cannot control them or change them, we must learn
to put up with these things. We must learn to endure them cheerfully
thinking, "God wills it so, so be it." God's plan is beyond our
comprehension. Believe in it and you will gain in terms of patience, inner
strength and will power.

7. Do Not Bite Off More Than You Can Chew.

This maxim needs to be remembered constantly. We often tend to take more
responsibilities than we are capable of carrying out. This is done to
satisfy our ego. Know your limitations. Why take on additional loads that
may create more worries? You cannot gain peace of mind by expanding your
external activities. Reduce your material engagements and spend time in
prayer, introspection and meditation. This will reduce those thoughts in
your mind that make you restless. uncluttered mind will produce greater
peace of mind.

8. Meditate Regularly.

Meditation calms the mind and gets rid of disturbing thoughts. This is the
highest state of peace of mind. Try and experience it yourself. If you
meditate earnestly for half an hour everyday, your mind will tend to become
peaceful during the remaining twenty-three and half-hours. Your mind will
not be easily disturbed as it was before. You would benefit by gradually increasing
the period of daily mediation. You may think that this will interfere with
your daily work. On the contrary, this will increase your efficiency and you
will be able to produce better results in less time.

9. Never Leave The Mind Vacant.

An empty mind is the devil's workshop. All evil actions start in the vacant
mind. Keep your mind occupied in something positive, something worthwhile.
Actively follow a hobby. Do something that holds your interest. You must
decide what you value more: money or peace of mind. Your hobby, like social
work or temple work, may not always earn you more money, but you will have a
sense of fulfillment and achievement. even when you are resting physically,
occupy yourself in healthy reading or mental chanting of God's name.

10. Do Not Procrastinate And Never Regret.

Do not waste time in protracted wondering "Should I or shouldn't I?"
Days, weeks, months, and years may be wasted in that futile mental debating. You
can never plan enough because you can never anticipate all future
happenings. Always remember, God has His own plan, too for you. Value your
time and do the things that need to be done. It does not matter if you fail
the first time. You can learn from your mistakes and succeed the next time.
Sitting back and worrying will lead to nothing. Learn from your mistakes,
but do not brood over the past. DO NOT REGRET. Whatever happened was
destined to happen only that way. Take it as the Will of God. You do not
have the power to alter the course of God's Will. Why cry over spilt milk?

after almost a year...

of being away from the blogging world, it's good to be back on track.

wow! it has been such a long time since i've last updated my blogs. imagine?!!! it's almost a year now. well, the past months were really hectic. i have to juggle different responsibilities starting at home then at work and so on... i've been through some tough times and some fun times, as well.

now, taking a look at my previous posts made me laugh coz it's a case of history repeating itself, hehe. if you refer to my post here -- Busy Buddy -- it talks of 3 events: my cousin's wedding, our company's general assembly and my birthday . and, what do you know? one of those events happened this year already and the other 2 will still take effect on August...

first stop is my cousin's wedding. uh-huh. you heard me right (again! hehe). one of my cousins got married about a week ago. July 15th to be exact. and, as expected, i was given the role of a wedding coordinator again (should i consider it flattering? not sure, hehe). it was just a civil wedding but the groom's family (who happens to be Australian citizens though Italian by blood) requested to incorporate some of the traditions found in church weddings (whichever is possible). and so, my brilliant mind is put to work in such a short period of time. yup, i was only given a day to prepare for it. why? it's a long story; but, to make it short, 3 days before the wedding date, the groom canceled the wedding. both sides of the family got hurt and i thought that it was really final since it seems like there's no chance for it to be resolved especially with the issues surrounding it. then, fortunately (i guess, hehe), a day before the wedding, my cousin and the groom decided that the wedding will push through. waaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhh!!!!! i was shocked. i didn't know what to say or do. but since i'm after my cousin's happiness, i did my best to make her wedding wonderful and memorable. thankfully, God is on my side. the wedding day came and everything went smooth.  the couple looked so happy (they'd better be!!! after all that we've been through, hehe).

next stop is our company's general assembly. just like last year, our team was chosen again to host the gen-ass (as coined by my officemates, hehe) for the month of August. and, we decided to make it more exciting this time. how to go about that? we agreed to have an anime cosplay as a theme. yipee!!! most of us really love animes so we thought that it would be fun to dress up like our fave anime characters. this is one way for us to connect with our inner child. with that in mind, my officemates are getting busy choosing which anime character to portray on the 16th. goodluck, guyz!!! can't wait to see all of you dressed up like animes.

last stop is my birthday... yehey! my birthday is about a month away. this year's celebration will be different. i kinda planned it out already. i thought of taking a leave from work and travel out of town with my boyfriend. i thought of celebrating my birthday at my sister's place. since she'll be giving birth sometime around August, i think it's great to celebrate it with her and my family (coz they'll be going there ahead of me to look after my sister) . i'm getting sssssssooooooooooooooo excited. i hope this plan happens. *praying and still praying*

oopppsss... i almost forgot. there's one more important event next month. my nephew's birth. all of us (especially my parents) can't wait to welcome a new addition in our family. my sister is scheduled to give birth to a handsome baby boy around middle of August. i really hope and pray that she'll have a safe and normal delivery. and most especially, i pray that the baby will be born healthy and strong..

i guess that's about it, so far. until my next post... hopefully, it won't take another year. lol.

take care everyone! ^_^

The Greatest Advice

To make yourself happy, pursue your passions and be the best of what you can be.
Simplify your life. Take away the clutter.
Get rid of destructive elements: abusive friends, nasty habits, and dangerous liaisons.
Don’t abandon your responsibilities, but don’t overdose on duty.

Don’t date because you are desperate.
Don’t marry because you are miserable.
Don’t have kids because you think your genes are superior.
Don’t philander because you think you are irresistible.

Don’t associate with people you can’t trust.
Don’t cheat. Don’t lie. Don’t pretend.
Don’t dictate because you are smarter.
Don’t demand because you are stronger.

Don’t sleep around because you think
you are old enough & know better.
Don’t hurt your kids because loving them is harder.
Don’t sell yourself, your family, or your ideals.
Don’t stagnate!

Don’t regress.
Don’t live in the past. Time can’t bring anything or anyone back.
Don’t put your life on hold for possibly Mr. Right.
Don’t throw your life away on absolutely Mr. Wrong because your biological clock is ticking.

Learn a new skill.
Find a new friend.
Start a new career.
Sometimes, there is no race to be won,
only a price to be paid for some of
life’s more hasty decisions.

To terminate your loneliness, reach out to the homeless.
To feed your nurturing instincts, care for the needy.
To fulfill your parenting fantasies, get a puppy.
Don’t bring another life into this world for all the wrong reasons.

Don’t live life recklessly without thought and feeling for your family.
Be true to yourself.
Don’t commit when you are not ready.
Don’t keep others waiting needlessly.

Go on that trip. Don’t postpone it.
Say those words. Don’t let the moment pass.
Do what you have to, even at society’s scorn.

Write poetry.
Love Deeply.
Walk barefoot.
Dance with wild abandon.
Cry at the movies.

Take care of yourself. Don’t wait for someone to take care of you.
You light up your life.
You drive yourself to your destination.
No one completes you - except YOU.

It isn’t true that life does not get easier with age.
It only gets more challenging.
Don’t be afraid. Don’t lose your capacity to love.
Pursue your passions.

Live your dreams.
Don’t lose faith in God.
Don’t grow old. Just grow YOU!

When you give someone your time, you are giving them a portion of your life that you’ll never get back.
Your time is your life. That is why the greatest gift you can give to someone is your time.
Relationships take time and effort, and the best way to spell love is T-I-M-E because the essence of love is not what we think or do or provide for others, but how much we give of ourselves.

God is good all the time!

– Rick Warren

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